JUST 2 THINGS





Two names you go by


1. Teri


2. Therese





Two things you're wearing now:


1. Jeans


2. Brown sweather





Two things you would want in a relationship:


1. Honesty


2. Humor





Two of your favorite things to do:


1. Spend time with my family and friends


2. Garden





Two things you want very badly at the moment:


1. To be have a baby


2. To be able to come up with the money for the shared risk program





Two things you did yesterday:


1. Slept


2. Watched Twilight





Two things you ate yesterday:


1. Turkey Salad Sandwich


2. Peanut M&M's





Two people you last talked to:


1. My Husband


2. My Step-son





Two things you're doing tomorrow:


1. Making Turkey Soup


2. Going to work





Two favorite holidays:


1. Thanksgiving


2. Christmas





Two favorite beverages:


1. Diet Coke


2. Wine





Two people no longer alive that you'd like to talk to:


1. My mother


2. My father





Two people you are tagging to fill this out:


1. Daniela


2. Kristen

Some changes

So I haven't blogged about it, but it seems that God has been working ... in the same week I was contacted by two different women on two different boards, both with incredible offers to help us in our search for a family. One woman wanted to be a surrogate for us and another wanted to "share" a cycle - effectively becoming egg donor. After much prayer and thought we turned down the surrogate (thank you L - you're wonderful) unfortunately she had already had three c-sections - I just felt that health wise there were too many concerns. But we have accepted the wonderful offer from K to be share her cycle. She's a wonderful woman and I'm thrilled that she'd share her eggs with us. We plan to keep the embryos frozen until we can afford and arrange a surrogate (not too long - maybe six-nine months depending on the economy.) We still have many obstacles, but we have a new plan. (It changes often huh!! Just trying to keep up at this point!) We're still pursuing foster care - the classes have been scheduled and will begin April 28th. If we get a placement, we'll love the child for as long as God allows them to stay in our care - if that's forever - then we'd be forever blessed. But we'll still pursue the surrogacy as well. That way if forever is only a year, hopefully we'll have another blessing on the way to help ease the pain. That's the plan for now - stay tuned - you never know what God has in store!

Impatient Control Freak

Hi, my name is Teri and I'm a control freak

Since admitting it is half the battle, I'll finally admit it. I'm impatient, I'm a control-freak and I'm having a very difficult time waiting for the slow hand of God. After the years of spending money and time trying to concieve, we're planning to adopt, but we have to wait. The foster system requires nine-weeks of classes and they have yet to be scheduled. We're told they will "probably" be scheduled in April - but we haven't heard anything. It's killing me! Since I need to do something, I spend my time looking at photos of children that are waiting to be adopted, adoption websites, blogs of parents who have fostered or adopted... but most of it is not helping (although the blogs do.) It kills me that so much comes down to money. If we had tons of money we could hire a surrogate and have a lot of control over the situation (not all - but a lot). If we had less money - but still quite a bit - we could do domestic adoption and have some control (not much, but some.) But because we spent our money TTC, we need to wait for the foster system and we have no control... Hopefully our finances will be recouped shortly - but by then, we'll have completed our homestudy with the state. After a certain period of time (we think six months, we'll learn more when we attend classes) the homestudy becomes "ours" so we can take it to a private adoption agency. So the plan is that we'll pursue the foster-care system and see if this is God's plan. If by the time the homestudy becomes free we have not had a placement from DCYF, then we'll pursue the adoption through an agency or surrogacy. But in the meantime I have to continue to learn the lessons God has apparently been trying to teach me througout my adult-life. That I need to trust Him and wait on Him and that is all I need to be doing...